The Work vs Love Balance

March 4, 2014


As an entrepreneur, the hours are long and the work is never ending. In between client meetings and working on client deliverables, I’m constantly on the grind. And it’s exactly the life I wanted because I find pride in having that one to one connection with clients and actually making a direct impact to local businesses. But I’m also in a relationship. And that can sometimes be a full-time job too.

For my fellow entrepreneurs – how do you balance your relationship with your significant other? Are they also an entrepreneur? And if not, how do they take your work ethic and long hours as you build your own empire? Turning off the laptop at a certain time is an ideal situation, but not always the case. I’m sure there isn’t some easy answer to this question, but what are some little ways you keep the spark alive and moving forward while also maintaining your businesses? I’d love to hear your input in the comments below!

  • I get asked this question all of the time because people always wonder where do we find the time to even cultivate a relationship if we both are so busy. The main thing that I always mention to people is that we both make compromises and find a nice balance between our busy schedules. We call each other on the phone or send text messages every chance we get throughout our work day. During tax season (he’s an accountant) he is at work almost 60+ hours during the week so we don’t get much time to spend with each other. When we do have the time on his day off. I make the effort of not checking my phone every 15 minutes. I also try my best to get as much work in as possible during the day so I am not on my computer while we both have to settle in and relax from the day.

    I think that when you find someone that has the same goals and values that you do. It’s a lot easier to explain to them of your crazy work schedule. That’s the one thing I have learned from dating and relationships in general. The need for respect of the other’s passions and goals is vital because without it. Neither party would be happy. We both know that at the end of the day. We are both working towards creating a happy future for ourselves. I do all I can to let him know that he’s appreciated and loved even if it is sending a goofy, romantic text during a short break to make him laugh. Those are some little things that we do to keep our spark alive and burning.

    I felt like I just wrote an entire speech but it all boils down to loving and respecting the other person and their goals and passions.

    • Speech away girl! And I feel for you. I have a friend that’s an accountant and she’s crazy busy because of tax season. :/

      I agree that it does boil down to love and respect and understanding that all of the hard work is for a better future and life. Thanks for your input! πŸ™‚

  • This is so fantastic. Even though I’m married to my business partner (yikes lol), I knew early on, I couldn’t be married to someone who wasn’t an entrepreneur. I love my work. I’m a bit married to my work so I need someone who is equally committed to what they’re doing. I can’t imagine how hard it is being in a relationship when you own your own business and your SO has a 9-5.

    • Yah you’re one of the lucky ones! I think as long as the SO who works a 9-5 understands the crazy schedule of the SO entrepreneur, then there shouldn’t be too many problems. I think it’s just super important to have similar levels of ambition and drive, otherwise things get so stale!

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